The Cycle Ends Here
Find Your Sober Genius
Create the Life of Your Dreams
Sobriety is hard enough. Protecting it from a narcissist is a whole different fight.
Maybe you’re still drinking. You’ve poured the almost-full bottle of wine down the sink, promised yourself you’ll start “Monday,” and started over more Mondays than you can count. But every time you get some days under your belt, one phone call, one guilt trip, one family dinner puts the glass right back in your hand.
Or maybe you’ve already done the hard work of getting sober. You have the days, the months, maybe the years. But there’s someone in your life who knows exactly how to rattle you, who makes every holiday a minefield, and who seems to get louder the stronger you become. And you’re starting to wonder how long you can hold on.
Either way, here’s what no one has told you: most sobriety support was never designed for a life with a narcissist in it.
I am the only sobriety coach for women specializing in narcissistic relationships. Whether you’re ready to stop drinking or determined to protect the sobriety you’ve fought for, I give you the boundaries, scripts, and strategies that actually work with the people who make it hardest, so you can stop surviving them and start building the life you’ve been dreaming of.
Alcohol and narcissistic relationships work exactly the same way.
They both keep you small.
They both keep you hidden.
They both convince you that you need them to feel okay.
And they both get louder the moment you try to leave.
That’s why you can’t fix one and ignore the other. As long as one is running your life, the other always has a way back in.
I am the only sobriety coach that focuses on how to break free from both.
You weren’t failing sobriety.
Sobriety advice was failing you.
“Just set a boundary.”
“Tell them how you feel.”
“Lean on your family.”
“Avoid your triggers.”
Great advice, for healthy relationships.
But try it with a narcissist and you already know what happens. Your boundary becomes their ammunition. Your honesty gets twisted and thrown back at you. Your family is the trigger. And the moment you get sober and start seeing clearly, they push harder than ever, because a clear-headed you is the one thing they can’t control.
Most sobriety coaches have never been trained in narcissistic dynamics. So they hand you a plan that falls apart at the first Thanksgiving, and you walk away believing you’re the one who failed.
You didn’t fail. You were handed the wrong playbook.
I don’t give you a generic sobriety plan and hope it survives your family. I build one for the exact relationships you’re in.
You don’t have to prove it here.
You’ve spent years explaining. Defending yourself. Saving screenshots.
Replaying conversations to make sure you didn’t imagine them.
And when you finally found the courage to tell someone, you heard:
“Are you sure that’s what happened?”
“She’s your mother, she loves you her way.”
“Every marriage has problems.”
“Have you tried seeing it from his side?”
So you stopped telling people.
And here’s what almost no one talks about: your drinking became their favorite weapon. “You’re the one with the problem.” “You had wine, you don’t remember it right.” Every glass made you easier to doubt, even to yourself.
That ends here.
I won’t ask you to see their side. You’ve been seeing their side your whole life.
I won’t ask you to prove it, soften it, or “just let it go.” For so many women I work with, I’m the first person they’ve ever told the whole story to, and the first to look at them and say:
I believe you.
Sober. Clear-headed. Believed. Most of my clients have never had all three at once. That’s where everything changes.
Here’s exactly what we work on together:
Getting and staying sober inside narcissistic relationships.
You’ll stay sober even when they push every button because your plan is built around them, not around a life you don’t have.
Boundaries that actually hold.
You’ll set iron-clad boundaries and follow through, without caving, over-explaining, or spending three days recovering from the fallout.
Scripts for the hardest conversations.
You’ll have word-for-word language for the calls, texts, and confrontations that used to leave you speechless or shaking.
Protecting your sobriety from anyone who threatens it.
Not just the narcissist but the friend who pours you “just one” and the family who liked you better when you drank.
Building your Sober Dream Team.
You’ll surround yourself with safe people who have your back, so you never have to do this alone again.
Complimentary Resources
Rooted in Nervous System Safety
Download the Embodied Sobriety Guide + Tracker.
This guide is designed to support embodied sobriety by focusing on safety first.
SOS practices — Stay Sober, Orient to Safety, and Somatic Support — are daily stabilization tools that help protect your sobriety and support healing, especially after relational trauma or chronic emotional stress.
HALT is used as an awareness check-in to help you notice early signs of dysregulation so you can respond with care instead of self-judgment.
A check means you noticed or supported yourself in any way. You do not need to do everything. Choose what helps and leave the rest.
At 30 days, reward yourself. Celebration helps your brain recognize safety and reinforces what’s working
This tracker is designed to support embodied sobriety by focusing on habits that promote safety first.
SOS practices — Stay Sober, Orient to Safety, and Somatic Support — are daily stabilization tools that help protect your sobriety and support healing, especially after relational trauma or chronic emotional stress.
HALT is used as an awareness check-in to help you notice early signs of dysregulation so you can respond with care instead of self-judgment.
A check means you noticed or supported yourself in any way. You do not need to do everything. Choose what helps and leave the rest.
At 30 days, reward yourself. Celebration helps your brain recognize safety and reinforces what’s working
Your next step is simple.
1. Apply. Tell me a little about where you are. No judgment, no pressure.
2. Talk with me. We’ll hop on an optional complimentary call if you need reassurance this is the right fit for you.
3. Start reclaiming your life. Begin Private, 1:1 coaching built around your relationships, your sobriety, and your goals.
Imagine seeing their name pop up on your phone and feeling nothing.
No knot in your stomach. No reaching for the bottle. Just calm.
You say no, and you don’t spend the week bracing for fallout.
You walk into the holiday knowing exactly what you’ll say, and leave proud of yourself.
You wake up on Saturday clear-headed, present with your kids, and actually rested.
And then something even bigger happens.
All the energy that went into surviving drinking and narcissists comes back to you. Your confidence grows. You remember who you were before all of this. You finally have room for the dreams you shelved years ago: the business, the book, the career.
This is your sober genius: the brilliant, creative, capable you that’s been buried under years of numbing and surviving. She never left. She’s been waiting for you to come back for her.
You become the woman who broke the cycle. And your kids get to watch you do it.
Meet Your Coach
I’m not a coach who read about narcissism. I lived it.
I was raised by a narcissistic mother. Growing up, love felt conditional. I learned to read her moods before she walked into the room, to make myself smaller, quieter, easier, so I wouldn’t set her off. She was selfish, critical, angry, and unavailable, and somewhere along the way I decided that was just what love looked like. So I promised myself one thing: I would never be like her.
What I didn’t understand then was that growing up with a narcissist doesn’t just hurt you as a child. It rewires you. It teaches you to find the same patterns everywhere: in friendships, in family, in the people you let closest. For years, narcissists were woven into my everyday life, and I had no idea why those relationships felt so familiar and so impossible to leave.
I survived them the only way I knew how: with wine and Xanax.
From the outside, I looked fine. A former teacher turned stay-at-home mom of three, I was the one who had it together. But underneath, I was numbing everything: my childhood, my present, and the people I couldn’t seem to get away from. Most weekends, I was blacking out. My family was living in a nightmare.
And then one day I realized the promise I’d made to myself was broken. I had become her. Detached. Critical. Angry. Unavailable to the kids who needed me most.
In July of 2017, my family picked me up from rehab. My kids were 8, 6, and 4.
I’ve been sober since June 23, 2017. But here’s what I learned the hard way: getting sober didn’t make the narcissists go away. I had sobriety support. What I didn’t have was anyone who understood what it’s like to stay sober when the people closest to you know exactly how to pull you under.
So I had to figure it out myself. I learned to set boundaries that actually held without losing my sanity or peace. I learned to stop letting the narcissists run my life. And slowly, I got myself back. Today my weekends start with coffee and a walk, not a hangover and a list of apologies. And my kids have the mom I always wished I’d had.
That’s why I created this work. It’s the coaching I needed and couldn’t find.
I’m a former elementary school teacher, a certified Alcohol-Free, Success, Mindset, Somatic Trauma-Informed, and Narcissistic Relationship Dynamic Coach, and certified in NLP and Hypnosis. But the most important thing I bring you is this: I’ve been exactly where you are, and I know the way out. With almost a decade of sobriety with zero slips, I am the guide I wish I had.
This is for you if:
You’re ready to stop drinking, or you’re sober and need to protect your sobriety.
There’s a narcissist in your life you can’t (or aren’t ready to) walk away from completely.
There’s a narcissist or are narcissists in your life you are ready to walk away from completely.
You’re tired of well intended bad advice that doesn’t fit your reality.
You know there’s a bigger life waiting for you, and you’re done putting it off.
I’ll meet you exactly where you are and I won’t leave you there.
This isn’t for you if you’re looking for someone to tell you whether to stay or leave. I’ll never make that decision for you. You’ve had enough people telling you what to do. My work helps you get clear, strong, and sober enough to trust your own answer.
A year from now, you’ll be in one of two places.
Still bracing for the next phone call. Still counting Day 1s, or white-knuckling the days you have. Still wondering if it’s you.
Or sober, steady, and finally free, building the life you’ve been dreaming about for years.
If you’re asking whether you deserve this, I know exactly where that voice came from. The person who taught you that you weren’t worth investing in is the very reason the question exists.
You’ve spent your whole life managing everyone else’s moods, needs, and feelings. This is the moment you finally choose yourself. And here’s the beautiful part: the day you break the cycle is the day your children stop inheriting it.
Your sober genius has been waiting.
So has the life of your dreams.
Book a free 15-minute call. No pressure.
Just a real conversation about where you are and where you want to go.